I have always heard the expression, “nice guys finish last.”
This was said about relationships to imply that being friends with a girl would have you be the last one to find a girlfriend or get married. Don’t be too nice to the girls, they only go for jerks and the bad-ass on a motorcycle. If you are too nice, you’ll be “choosing from the leftovers”
I’ve also heard this spoken about sales by some hard-nosed, seasoned salesmen: “nice guys finish last. You have to get in there and sell! Push the contract across the table and stare right through them.”
Well…I’m a nice guy; I tried to treat women with respect during my formative and bachelor years…and I got THE GIRL! I married an incredible woman and she likes that I’m nice to her.
It leaves me wondering if the old saying “nice guys finish last” is BS in every context? I don’t push my prospects, I try to befriend them, be generous with my time, and do my best to help them…and my hope is that they sign with me because they enjoy the connection.
We’ll see, but I have a feeling that nice guys aren’t going to finish last.